Page 552 after all this, it cant be denied that the big book paints a really definite picture of the result of holding resentments. I am about to get started on my step 4 so havent done my resentments yet although i have a lot of old ones and i am using sober recovery. These instructions are for the below prayer big book, freedom from bondage, p. Thats the way my drinking began, as a way to make the pain go away. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing.
If you have resentment that you want to be free of, pray. The big book explains that we must make a list that includes all our resentments we have and have ever had, an account of sexual conduct and. Forgiveness is the art of releasing resentment hazelden. Feb 14, 2014 addiction recovery should feel good, but resentments are big hurdles to cross. Reading from left to right we now see the resentment column 1, the cause column 2, the part of self that had been affected column 3, and the exact nature of the defect within us that allowed the resentment to surface and block us off from gods will columns 4. When sharing on the sunday night big book step study meeting, please identify yourself as. Following the subsequent extensive growth of twelve step programs for other addictive and dysfunctional behaviors, many additional books were written and recordings and videos were produced.
Our goal is to study the steps as a friendly, focused group, and work them as the authors of the big book. My hope is that these prayers will provide a framework for you to develop your own or expand on the wording below. Fourth step inventory introduction to the 4th step. Review of resentments worksheets printable worksheets. Resentment worksheet adobe acrobat pdf file please click on the link above. Resentments read from bottom of page 63 through 65 of the big book before beginning. My resentments my character defects resentment prayer on page. Column 1 column 2 column 3 column 4 column 5 i am resentful at. Thats why you can find a collection of letting go of resentment worksheets here. They prove to almost anyones satisfaction that its never too late to try alcoholics anonymous.
New stories have been added to the personal histories. Original materials on this site may be reproduced for your personal, educational or noncommercial use as long as you credit the authors and website. Write only one or two resentments per page and continue on to the next left hand page. Includes 10 suggestions to end resentments and action plans for working through barriers. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. People in the twelve step program ask a higher power for help in letting resentments go. The page 552 prayer to end resentments lent, prayers. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will.
Please note that there is a resentment inventory prompt sheet just before the. The story is titled freedom from bondage i have the 3rd edition of the aa big book. Learning the process of overcoming resentment literally saves the lives of people who are afflicted with the disease of alcoholism. On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of. On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. On my grudge list i set opposite each name my injuries. Oct 1, 2016 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments.
I know it sounds dramatic, but these are often big, deepseated issues. Readings on the 12 steps in the big book worksheet october 7, 2008. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics. The text used to develop the prayers are shown at the end of the prayer in parenthesis. Sep 10, 2014 someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. God help me to remember to be honest and to have courage. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to. Approach resentment as the addictive state of mind it is. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and then follow its instructions. Aa speaker turn our will and our lives over to the care of god new 20.
Fourth step inventory these fourth step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. Resentments sheet definitions of terms used in column 3. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. Start off with selecting one person you would like to forgive from your list perhaps one rated with the least emotionally reaction. Not scary resentments worksheet page 1 im resentful at people, institutions, principles the cause what made me feel angry, hurt, guilt, jealousy, despair or selfloathing. Apr 02, 2012 big books detailed fourth step inventory. Instead, it is just the natural byproduct of lack of resolution. When youre filling out the forms, make certain that you fill out each. Some of the worksheets displayed are resentments, resentment inventory prompt, im resentful at the cause affects my my part in this, fourth step inventory, step 4, forgiveness, the following six step process is part of the clearing, fourth step inventory. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but does not suggest writing anything down. I list people, institutions or principles with whom i am angry. Home blog life skills training your guide to letting go of resentments your guide to letting go of resentments no matter how strong you individual plan of recovery may be, there will be moments where you feel like you arent progressing any further in strengthening your sobriety.
Homework page tools for growth and communication the purpose of the journal exercises below is to help you tune in to your inner world and to identify your emotions, thoughts, beliefs and decisions that are running in the background of your life. See the prologue of this book for an example of a letter of resentment. Big book awakening 4th step workshop resentment examples and worksheets 122006 columns 14 to download the most current versions of these worksheets go to. Also consider if some arent really resentments, mark them to come back to later. Worksheets worksheet 1 lets try the following experiment. A fourth study guides are distilled right out of the big book of alcoholics anonymous. Sbbb refers to this steps by the big book workbook. Fourth step invento ry these 4th step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371.
Aa big book 4th edition alcoholics anonymous edinburgh. Resentment in families resentment is also an emotion that can have the longestlasting negative impact on a relationship, and it is impossible to repair a broken relationship without both partners addressing their resentments toward each other. Copyright alcoholics anonymous world services, inc. During this time, they may have done significant damage to your ability to interact with the world. So i figured i would post it here so i have it handy. Forgive and forget, turn the other cheek, let bygones be bygones, kiss and makeup as a result we have all grown up with certain ideas about what forgiveness really is. The twelve step prayers were created using the text of the big book of alcoholics anonymous. When this study guide of the aa big book was prepared, the author anticipated different degrees of interest by readers. Make a lot of copies of the resentment forms, fewer copies of the fear forms, and fewer still of the sex conduct forms. Page 552, 4th edition someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that i may better do thy will. If you still have problems, then read pages 551 552 of the big book. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us.
The material is primarily intended for those individual members of aa who, like the author, have difficulty intelligently reconciling what they find in aas basic text with various religious concepts of a power greater. The resentment prayer is located at the end of a personal story in the back of the big book. Aa, the big book, the 12 steps, family, friends, structure in the. Aa history what does the bigbook say about resentment. Do it every day for two weeks, and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding and love.
List specific other defects to show your participation in the resentments. Stop ignoring the problem and pretending it does not exist or will go away on its own. Page 552 gives exact directions on how to deal with resentments. Realize that you are using resentment to replicate your family drama and maintain a connection with those dramas, a necessary acknowledgment before you can let them go. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the 12. Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions alcoholics anonymous alcoholics anonymous this is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. The woman quoted above in the big book discovered another way to end her most deepseated resentment. The first book written to cover the 12 step program was titled alcoholics anonymous, affectionately known as the big book by program members.
The site administrator fields questions from visitors. According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a deep resentment towards someone. Big book personal stories part iii they lost nearly. In this list you can consider if some resentments should be consolidated. Aug 24, 2014 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty ford. To doublecheck this, see the section on the serenity prayer, page 18. Worksheet designed to assist you recognize and overcome resentments. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those i would help of thy power, thy love and thy way of life. Showing top 8 worksheets in the category letting go of resentments. To overcome this hurdle we first need to understand resentment, and appreciate the damage that carrying. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free.
Letting go of resentments worksheets teacher worksheets. The page 552 prayer to end resentments sober catholic. Whatever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our selfpity. Are you stuck in the emotional and psychological quicksand and need help in overcoming resentments in your recovery. These 4th step worksheets use the wording from alcoholics anonymous the big book pages 6371. Myths of forgiveness throughout our lives, parents, teachers and religious leaders have urged us to. The big book of alcoholics anonymous says resentment destroys more alcoholics than anything else because deep resentment leads to futility and unhappiness and shuts us off from the sunlight of the spirit. I mentioned on my recent radio show the healing power of prayer that i would post the big book s resentment prayer. How to let go of resentment teal swan articles teal swan. Big book personal stories part iii they lost nearly all.
Since the first edition appeared, in 1939, it has helped millions of men and women recover from alcoholism. Once ive let go of all of my resentment through forgiving and forgetting, i need to visualize my life, present and future, without the negative impact of resentment. Mar 05, 2020 resentments are negative feelings that you may have been carrying around for years. The step 4 inventory starts by looking at resentment, which the big book describes as the number one offender when it comes to blockage in recovery 64. The big book bb notations are to page and paragraph, as in 64. This workbook provides exercises to help identify and defuse resentments. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. The story of how many thousands of men and women have recovered from alcoholism. Focus directly on the resolution and the byproducts of nonresolution, including resentment, will cease to exist. Just typed this up for a friend, and since i had it transcribed, thought i would share it here as well.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves reading. Some of the worksheets displayed are work, the following six step process is part of the clearing, 12 steps to letting go, forgiveness, resentments, the radical forgivenessacceptance work, why you want to learn to forgive in recovery 1, work letting go of grudges reivich 2004. Read the big book, page 67, last paragraph through first paragraph on page 68. If you have a drinking problem, we hope that you may pause in reading. Sometimes, it isnt long resentment we must deal with, but a sudden, consuming rage. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the. The big book gives us another powerful example of how to use prayer to soften our heart toward the people we resent. Sometimes, a guideline we can follow along to work through our feelings can make this process a little easier. Is it possible that the more we have them, the more we are moving toward our next drink, since we have used alcohol before to help us deal with them. Even when you dont really want it for them, and your prayers are only.
It originated the twelvestep program now used widely among addictions outside alcohol. I ask myself why i am angry, what did they do to me to cause the anger. Jun 08, 2010 the resentment prayer is located at the end of a personal story in the back of the big book. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will. Resentments are negative feelings that you may have been carrying around for years. We listed people, institutions or principles with whom we were an gry. Clergymen of practically every denomination have given a. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. The 24hour plan page 5 and first things first page 32 have helped many of us cope with such a rage, although we didnt see how they possibly could until we actually tried themand. Letting go of resentment and anger can be hard work.
Page 552, 4th edition someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. I was immersed in selfpity and resentment, and the only people who would support this attitude or who i felt understood me at all were the people i met in bars and. Resentments old grudges, bitter memories, simmering anger can be triggers to a relapse. Sexual conductharm done t o others read carefully big book pages 6870. You are encouraged to reproduce all internet resources on this site on your sites which have similar interests and. Page 67 of the book, alcoholics anonymous, states, resentment is the number one offender. Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. When the word optional is used in the worksheets, it means that the big book suggests doing this but. Relationships relations with or toward other people. Resentment, of course, is any kind of lingering anger the residue of old hurts, disagreements, and frustrations.
Expectations are premeditated resentments soberrecovery. Examine how your resentment may come from mentally confusing people in your present life with people in your. The big book is one of the bestselling books of all times 30 million copies sold. The big book is alcoholics anonymouss primary text. The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. The big book s way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. Please do not state that you are in stephanies workshop, for it is a break of my anonymity. Affects my selfesteem, security, ambitions, personal relationships or sexual relationships goodlifenoalcohol. Well, lets see what the big book has to say about resentment. While it is a tall order, by keeping these four tips in mind, you will be able to reduce and eventually eliminate those resentments that plague your recovery. Recognize that your need to start the process is greater than the anger hurting you.
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